How many times have you heard this phrase:
“Don’t think! Just feel and be yourself!”
I hate it!
And the worst thing is, I have said it myself to many people… Now I guess it is a good time to apologize…
I am sorry, truly sorry, for adding on to your frustration but believe me I didn’t do it on purpose.
Being a beginner at something again, now after many years, teaches me every time I get in class, that being yourself in something foreign is impossible!
If you know nothing about that new thing; how can you possibly know who you are in it?
Be yourself… because in this society you are not allowed to be lost!
When you start Tango or any other new thing for that matter … but lets stick to Tango for now… You are going to feel confused, lacking in some way, frustrated or simply put lost!
You are doing something new, specifically dancing with a stranger in your face! If that person is not a strange you are still moving together in ways you usually don’t. And you have to find a way to lead and follow some step successfully while following the social codicos of a milonga and meeting people’s expectations.
All this inevitably will make you stand differently, move differently, BE differently. It will make you lose your identity…. But only in a good way!
Should you just accept it then..?
Passive acceptance, can be the first step, but it shouldn’t be the only step.
Instead of trying with all your strength to bring what you know of “yourself” in the dance, start seeing yourself and your body as maybe your old neighbourhood; a place you hadn’t been in for a long time.
Start with noticing things that look and feel familiar… and then notice the things that surprise you, the things you have never seen before, you didn’t know existed in your body, in your movement vocabulary, in yourself!
Tango and any other activity can be an opportunity to get lost and find yourself again and again. An opportunity to surprise yourself.
And yes! It is hard and it sucks in the beginning but keep at it for the day, when you will be able to say to yourself:
“Well! I didn’t know you had it in you!”
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